Vicky posted this question some time ago. I thought it was a very nice question at the time, and it seems to have stayed with me ever since.
I dress quite conservatively. When I was a student in Big City I would always wear single-breasted three-button suits and D.M.s or brogues.
One of my girlfriends would laugh at me about this, and she actually said to me once, “if you were a girl you would flounce about in dresses and heels wouldn’t you?” I was in a non-wearing phase at the time. I responded with what I thought would be the right mix of humour, annoyance and embarrassment.
Ha! It’s all coming back to me now. She had a lot of gay male friends. She recounted to me once how she’d been spending the afternoon dressing up one of these boys in her underwear. She saw my envy/jealousy but quite misinterpreted it, I think.
The attempts one goes to to avoid intimacy, when it makes an attack.
There’s a woman here (in my office building) who dresses a bit like I’d like to. I love to watch her clip-clopping to ad from her car. I don’t have outrageous sexual fantasies about her like I do about some of the other women who work here.
I call her Ginger. She’s tallish with lots of long red hair. She always dresses and moves very smartly. Trouser suits or long skirts, and always tights and heels.
She’s not fantastically pretty. She has an interesting, slightly hard face. She smokes.
Graceful and well-groomed as she is, I was amazed to find out she is a web programmer. I am a programmer too!
